I am a 30-something single lady. I love lavender and anything bright. I love walking under the sun but is not keen on waking up early. I can think more clearly at night, when everyone's snoring and dead to the world. Coffee and hot choco keeps me going. I love the sound of rain, laughter, my laptop's keys...My younger brother
Posted on | August 7, 2009 | 4 Comments
Sometimes, I am wondering if I am being too strict with my younger brother. He’s 17 and is in second year college. I’ve been taking care of him since he was a baby. My mom suffered from postpartum depression and was not really inclined to take care of my baby brother then. I was in second year high school when I started becoming a mom to my little brother. It won’t stop especially now that our mom’s gone already.
My brother gets into trouble a lot. Most of the time, he didn’t have anything to do with it. But because of that, I’ve been restricting him from going out too much, especially on weekdays when there’s school. I also have this fear of him doing drugs and alcohol so I always want to know every detail if ever I allow him to go out. Just a few minutes ago, he sent me a text message telling me that he’ll be going to the wake of one of his classmates. I immediately got paranoid and asked him to give me the name and address of the person who died. One of my high school classmates was knifed while attending a wake just because he tried to stop two men from fighting.
Obviously, I love my brother and I don’t want him to get into any kind of trouble. I also want him to be safe as much as possible. Of course, I know he’s getting older and needs his freedom but for now, I am in charge and this is how I keep him safe.
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August 10th, 2009 @ 8:56 pm
Hey… you do what you have to do. Growing up, I was a second mom to my brothers because our mom was always working. Even now, I “mother” them. It’s not easy… but you do it because you care. :o)
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August 12th, 2009 @ 12:32 am
I don’t think your being strict your just showing him you care enough to know where he is at.
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August 14th, 2009 @ 11:26 pm
You are an amazing sister to your brother and I’m sure he appreciates you looking after him. It’s normal to be afraid for your brother’s safety. Just be sure to give him some time to be independent and find out who he is. Great communication is important too.
My mom was very strict and I led a pretty sheltered life. This led me to lie a lot to my Mom about where I was because I knew she wouldn’t allow me out of the house otherwise.
It sounds like your doing a great job though.
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August 18th, 2009 @ 1:53 am
I have 2 younger brothers, too. And I worry about them a lot even though they’re all grown up. I’m sure your brother appreciates your caring ways although he doesn’t show it.
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